Adultery is the major reason for broken trust. The other reason can be unfulfilled promises, especially if your spouse was really looking forward to the fulfilment of that promise. But cheating on your spouse (adultery) is the major cause. This must be avoided at ALL costs! But if it happens, and God forbid it does happen, forgiveness must reign supreme if this marriage is to survive. In fact, marriage is only for forgivers. If you can’t forgive, please don’t marry. There is always something you will need to forgive your spouse for…. and them forgiving you.
But the betrayal of adultery is the hardest to forgive. It needs a lot of prayer, counselling, and determination to move on. However, the offending partner must GENUINELY remorseful, TRULLY apologetic and TOTALLY committed never to do it again. They must understand the anger and pain of their spouse. They must put themselves in the spouse’s shoes. Bursts of anger from the betrayed partner are common in the early weeks/months of discovery. The perpetrator must know they are to blame and NOT fight back. In fact, they must go well above the call of duty in dealing with their hurt spouse. They must rebuild trust at all costs. This means being overly communicative and transparent. This transparency may be one of the major blocks to rebuild trust. The offending partner must let their spouse know where they are every single time… even allow them to track them on GPS until trust is built again. There is a much easier way to deal with this though…..simply…DON’T CHEAT ON YOUR SPOUSE!